I'm embarrassed to admit this

[workingmom]

my sister is pregnant with a boy and I'm a little jealous. I want to be supportive of her, but I can't help but be a little jealous because I wanted a boy first. I love my daughter and I couldn't imagine life without her, but I still can't help but feel a little sad. Is this normal? Am I crazy?

[froggie83]

i think it is totally normal. my brother got twin girls first and i wanted a girl first.... i was also secretly hoping for twins with both my pregnancies and jealous of my brother and cousin for having twins (i also wanted to have the first grand baby but mine ended up being the 3rd on my moms side and 9th on dh's side. )

[workingmom]

Thanks for making me feel better about that... I felt really selfish because a baby is a blessing regardless of gender but I just can't help my feelings. Either way this is my first nephew and I'm excited for a new baby in the family!

[tanyachap]

totally and absolutely normal! so many men and women crave to have one gender or another and end up with 2+ children of the opposite gender. they still love their children to pieces but crave the other gender. it sometimes last for years. i have a friend with 2 girls whose DH got a V (with her blessing of course) and she still has a fantasy to miraculously get PG with a boy LOL. She knows it wont happen - just thinks about it.

[zenmomof3]

Yes it's totally normal. They are your feelings and they are valid. I have 3 girls and always wanted a boy but we are done and it's not going to happen. It was REALLY hard for a good 2 years but I think I am mostly over it. For a while I didn't know if those feelings would ever go away! Then my brother had a boy and some of the feelings came back but they are kind of going away again. It's a tough issue because you feel badly and then feel guilty for the way you feel. It's hard to separate them but you should not feel guilty for feeling a certain way.

These feelings will likely go away at some point. Don't beat yourself up.

[mom2CodySophia0811]

I felt that way for a very short time before my son was born but it was very short lived. I did end up with a boy and a girl which I was surprised because I had a strong feeling I would have two boys. I am sure the feelings of jealously overtime will go away. I think its natural no matter what it is to be jealous at some point in your life.

[pumpkinpeejays]

You're not crazy at all! We had a girl first and a boy second - we love them in completely different ways, but equally.

[DandyElleS]

TOTALLY normal. I get completely jealous whenever anyone announces they're having a girl. 😜