So since this is my second boy and we have all the main essentials from the first we just had a 'diaper shower' (/ pool party) instead of a baby shower. I invited (via fb) a lot more people than I knew would actually show up, I planned it for a Sunday when I thought most people would be off, gave ample notice and figured on a pool party for entertainment since most of my friends have kids (its FL, we don't 'typically' participate in fall weather). I didn't have a huge response (about 12 people rsvpd) but that was fine. My circle of friends is pretty small anyway. So, my best friend and I prepped all night and this morning making cake pops, little deviled eggs that look like a baby carriage, and babies in a blanket, we got balloons, matching napkins, cups, plates, assorted drinks, even hot coco since it was a little chilly... My friend really did a lot of work. ... And ONE person - who wasn't related to us - showed up. 3 people in total, the others were my dad and my best friend's sister. We ended up packing everything up an hour early and taking it all in.
I understand when people are busy or have other plans. I'm not mad at that. I get that people get sick unexpectedly. I'm not mad at that either. People have to work, okay! I'm not hard on people about excuses. It (oddly?) bothers me though when people say they 'can't make it but will get me something or drop something off another time' (which they usually never do!) but It's not about the GIFT, it's about the TIME.
Also, it makes me think of my son's 2nd birthday back in July, we kind of went all out with lots of food and bouncy house and again, NO ONE came! Except my dad, my neighbors (who obviously live there) and my best friend's step sister who brought her kids or else there would have been NO kids at my son's birthday. 😢 He had an awesome time anyway and wouldn't have noticed otherwise but as his mom, it really bothered me. Especially since I try to bring him to all the parties he's invited to.
It just makes me feel like NO ONE wants to celebrate with us. Like do I really have NO friends (besides my bff)? And when I go to other parties there are always so many people there. It's not like a popularity contest but Damn... Like my feelings are legit hurt. I'm fucking 30 and crying (okay, some of that might be preg hormones but still)! I just feel like I don't have people in my life that care enough to show up! I know the people that really matter are there for me. I am grateful and appreciative of that. I'm not trying to sound like I'm not. Just in my feelings...
Also, it makes me worry about future birthday parties for my son(s). Like my kid is freaking awesome... Why wouldn't people want to come hang? And I would HATE for a repeat of this year to happen when he's old enough to realize no one is there... If my feelings are hurt as an adult, I can't imagine how he would feel. 😢
I've seen other mom's post that they didn't have big turn outs for 1st & 2nd birthdays but I just thought that if I bring my kid to your party, you'd bring yours to mine... Right? Especially if we are 'friends'. Is that not how things work? Am I missing a page in the mommie handbook?? Am I over reacting to this?
::big sigh:: ::deep breath::